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Kathleen W. Shack, M.S., LMFT
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Clinical Member, AAMFT

Child Specialist, Divorce Coach

Certified ScreamFree Leader

Discernment Counseling

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If you or your spouse are considering divorce but are not completely sure that’s the best path, Discernment Counseling is designed for you. It’s a chance to slow down, take a breath, and look at your options for your marriage.

Discernment Counseling is a brief process of helping couples where one person is “leaning out” of the relationship—and not sure that regular marriage counseling would help--and the other is “leaning in”—that is, interested in rebuilding the marriage.

Surveys find that up to 40% of divorced people have regrets about their divorce decision, often because they feel they (and their partner) did not try hard enough to see if they can make the marriage work.

Kathleen Shack will guide you through discussions that help you decide whether to try to restore your marriage to health, move toward divorce, or maintain status quo and decide later.

The goal is for you to gain clarity and confidence about a direction, based on a deeper understanding of your relationship and its possibilities for the future.

You will come in as a couple but the most important work occurs in the one-to-one conversations with the counselor. Why? Because you are starting out in different places.

Kathleen Shack will respect your reasons for considering divorce while trying to open up the possibility of restoring the marriage to health.

In this brief counseling service, you will be supported, honored for where you are, and asked to look at what you would need to change in yourself to have a healthy relationship —whether in this marriage or in a future on

Number of Sessions: A maximum of five counseling sessions. The first session is usually two hours and the subsequent are 1.5 or 2 hours. You decide each time whether to come back for a subsequent session.

Couples who go through Discernment Counseling most often come out the other end more settled and confident about their next steps: whether to make one, last, all-out effort in couples counseling to restore their marriage to health, or to move forward with divorce. Research shows that about half of couples choose the reconciliation path in couples counseling, and most of the other half proceed directlyto divorce after having carefully considered their options. Divorce lawyers report that these couples are calmer and the divorce process is smoother because of the work done in discernment counseling.

For more information about Discernment Counseling, please call or email Kathleen. You can also go to

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